Thinking Out Loud* about Ed Sheeran

I recently returned from Nashville, TN, where my 16-year-old son and I traveled for the sole purpose of seeing superstar singer-songwriter Ed Sheeran in concert. While we enjoyed the Country Music Hall of Fame, a tour of legendary Studio B where Elvis recorded many of his hits, and the Johnny Cash Museum, we were really there for Ed.

And so were about 20,000 other people.

If you don’t know much about Ed Sheeran (and most moms of-a-certain-age don’t), he’s a gregarious 24-year-old British man with red hair and an impish grin. He is not movie-star gorgeous. As a matter of fact, he isn’t terribly photogenic.

But boy, can he sing.

Not only does he sing and play the guitar, he writes his own songs (many of which are more like poetry than pop music), and he also uses a fascinating machine called a loop pedal or loop station. This technology allows him to record bits of vocals, guitar, and rhythm and then “loop” these back over and over again with the effect of a much larger group of singers, musicians, and even drummers. In concert, Ed stands on stage, all by himself, with just his guitar and his loop pedal, and for two hours, he makes the most amazing music. 

What really sets Ed apart from many other artists is his unusual ability to create rhythm, both with words and with music. He does things with rhythm that no one else is doing in the industry.

But even though he’s an amazingly talented singer and songwriter – and rapper – he simultaneously manages to be just a down-to-earth guy. If you follow him on social media, he posts photos of his lunch, mugging with dogs, hanging out with babies, being silly with his friends – pretty much what every other 24-year-old posts. He is always warm and friendly in interviews, making jokes and being quite self-effacing. The result is that fans can really relate to him, and if social media is any indication, they all just want to be friends with him. My son included.

During the concert, even as he performed incredible musical feats, simultaneously encouraging the audience to participate, backed by huge video screens displaying gorgeous graphics and live and pre-produced video, he still managed to be humble. During one of his best-known and most romantic songs, *Thinking Out Loud, couples often become engaged right during the concert! This happened during our concert in Nashville, and Ed seemed touched, and even said that he appreciated that he -- and this concert -- would be a part of their memories forever. 

Somehow, the fame and success which he is enjoying right now has not (yet) gone to his head. He’s humble, and seems to really enjoy what he’s doing.

At the end of each concert (he’s currently doing a tour in the U.S.), he pulls his iPhone out of his pocket, and shoots a photo of the audience. Then he posts it the next day. You can see photo after photo of full stadiums and screaming fans on his Instagram page. Each image is very similar.

I’ve been thinking about Ed and about what it must be like, touring the U.S. (and the world), filling stadiums with tens of thousands of fans, all screaming and singing the words to his songs, all basking in his energy and music, as he basks back in the love of the audience. In some ways, it must be difficult to do this, day after day and week after week, but in some ways, it must be perfect.

Lucky, lucky Ed.

P.S. Here is my son covering Thinking Out Loud (and giving Ed a run for his money)! 

On the 70th Anniversary of the Liberation of Auschwitz

Like many children of my generation, I had no choice but to watch films about the Holocaust at Hebrew School during the weeks before Yom Hashoah (Holocaust Remembrance Day) which takes place each spring. We all knew, from a young age, about the six million Jewish lives that were lost; about Hitler, and the Final Solution; and we knew about the Concentration Camps. We knew their names: Bergen Belsen, Dachau, Auschwitz. We knew, but we were kids. It was sad, but we really didn't want to think about it much.

As an adult, I've been to Yad Vashem in Israel, and I've seen photos and unbelievable relics of that horrible period. I've visited the Anne Frank House in Amsterdam and found that to be profoundly moving as well. I remember seeing the film Schindler's List and finding it both horrifying as well as uplifting.

Yesterday, which was the 70th anniversary of the liberation of Auschwitz, I watched an astonishing film entitled Night Will Fall (you can see the trailer here). As World War II was ending, British soldiers were sent to film what they found in the concentration camps right after the liberation. They were there specifically to document the atrocities. The result of this was something called “German Concentration Camps Factual Survey." Stored away for many years, this film has resurfaced and is now available to be viewed.

As children, we saw photos of the piles of bodies. In this film, we see -- moving, alive, in black in white -- prisoners dragging, then dumping corpses of their fellow Jews, one by one, into giant pits. We see prisoners who are like living skeletons, standing outside their barracks once they are liberated. We see a parade of children, twins, who managed to survive the cruel experiments of Mengele. We see images of the soldiers themselves, photographing the horrors. We see SS officers and local German people brought to see -- and smell -- the horrors of the camps with their own eyes (and noses).

One of the most amazing things for me was to realize that some of the filming was in color. I had never before seen images of the Holocaust in color, and this made it all the more real.

Interspersed with the footage are interviews of Holocaust survivors, soldiers who participated in some of the filming, and others who were there 70 years ago. It is amazing to see people, now well into their 90s, as they recall vividly their experiences at that time.

It is hard to believe that the Holocaust was only 70 years ago. In some ways, it was a very long time ago, and in other ways, just a moment ago. Viewing this film from that time makes it so much more real and present. These are not unrecognizable figures from ages ago: they are people who look very much like ourselves, living through hell, and somehow, coming out the other side. We must never forget.

D'var Torah for Shemot, Sisterhood Shabbat 2015

Names are important. Many times in the Torah, a person starts out with one name, and ends up with another. Avram, for example, becomes Avraham when G-d makes a covenant with him. Sarai becomes Sarah. Jacob fights with the angel and becomes Yisrael. Clearly, names can be significant and transformative in the Torah – representing a change in that person’s life.

This week’s parsha is Shemot – the first chapter of the second book of the Torah that is also called Shemot or as we know it in English, Exodus. In Hebrew, the word Shem– Shemot is plural of Shem – means name. So while in English, the book  is known as Exodus, which we all know, tells the story of the departure of the Children of Israel from Egypt, in Hebrew, the book is known as “names.”

Which begs the question: Why? As we all know, nothing in the Torah is there by accident. There is a reason. So why is this parsha, and this book, called “names”?

The simple answer is that Shemot starts out like this: “these are the names (shemot) of the Children of Israel coming to Egypt with Jacob, each man and his household they came: Reuben, Simeon, Levi, and Judah;  Issachar, Zebulun, and Benjamin; Dan and Naphtali, Gad and Asher. “

So seventy people from Jacob’s family came to Egypt, 11 of the 12 sons (Joseph was already in Egypt) and their families. But interestingly, after this sentence, no other names are mentioned for quite a while.

We then find out that a new king of Egypt arose to power who did not know Joseph – we could add, he doesn’t know Joseph’s name -  and this pharaoh does not have a name. This pharaoh is afraid of the Israelites because there are so many of them, and tries to control them by forcing them to perform labor, and to build cities.  In spite of this, the Israelites keep increasing in number.

Still, no names.

Now we learn that this new nameless King of Egypt has developed a plan to destroy the Israelites. He orders the midwives who deliver the Israelite babies to kill the all the male babies as they are being born.

The midwives refuse to obey his orders, and they are the first people to be named in this part of the story. Their names are Shifrah and Puah. Why are these women named, when others in the story are not?

Nahum Sarna in his commentary says:“Faced with a conflict between the laws of God and those of the pharaoh, the midwives followed the dictates of conscience. Their defiance of tyranny constitutes history’s first recorded act of civil disobedience in defense of a moral imperative. ‘”  

If we go a little further into the story, to the beginning of chapter two, we find more people described without their names.  For example, in the second chapter of Shemot, we read this:

A certain man of the house of Levi went and married a woman of Levi. The woman conceived and bore a son; and when she saw how beautiful he was, she hid him for three months. When she could hide him no longer, she got a wicker basket for him . . . put the child into it and placed it among the reeds by the bank of the Nile. And his sister stationed herself at a distance, to learn what would befall him. The daughter of Pharaoh came down to bathe in the Nile…

During this point of the story, no one is named until the daughter of Pharaoh names the baby Moses. Later on, we learn these people’s names – the man, Moses father, is Amram. His mother, Yocheved. His sister, Miriam. The rabbis later named Pharaoh’s daughter Batya. But why are their names left out here?

There is a difference between telling a story with a name – Amram from the tribe of Levi married a woman named Yochevet, and they had a son – and without a name – a man from the tribe of Levi married a woman, and they had a son. Why would the Torah choose to do that at this point in the story?

Perhaps the meaning is:  here is an example of a man and a woman who married, and had a son who they hid, defying Pharaoh’s edict, but there were many others. Lots of Israelites having babies, lots of little baskets set afloat on the Nile. Some of these baby boys survived, many didn’t. This story is just one of them, one who survived. Moses. And it was due to the courage of the midwives that he even existed. Without them, we would have no story. So we have to know their names.

In The Five Books of Miriam, a women’s commentary on the Torah by Ellen Frankel, Frankel points out that women were incredibly important in the early life of Moses. Due to Shifrah and Puah, the midwives, Moses life was saved in childbirth. Due to his mother, Yocheved, who nurtured her son and placed him in the basket in the Nile, hoping for the best, and due to the watchful eye of his sister Miriam, and the compassion of the Pharoah’s daughter Batya, Moses not only survived, but thrived. Five women played an enormous role in Moses’ survival. And now we know all their names.

Rabbi Laura Geller, in her interpretation of this parsha, states: “Our tradition teaches that each of us has three names: the one we are given at birth, the one we are called, and our real name. The task of each person, according to the tradition, is to discover our real name.”

Shabbat Shalom.

I wear two hats: living as a breast cancer survivor and a researcher

As both a breast cancer survivor and a public health researcher, I have a two-pronged interest in new research findings pertaining to breast cancer. Wearing my public health hat, I’m interested in new findings that relate to improved (less toxic, more effective) treatments for breast cancer, and wearing my survivor/patient hat, I’m interested in seeing if my personal experiences (both good and bad) with breast cancer treatment are reflected in the research.

The San Antonio Breast Cancer Symposium (SABCS) is a huge conference held each December. It is attended by breast cancer physicians, researchers, advocates, and of course, pharmaceutical companies and other folks working and selling products in the breast cancer arena. One of the things that makes SABCS so interesting is that there are usually some important new research findings presented there. I've been following the conference via Twitter (this year #SABCS14) for the past few years, and it’s interesting to virtually “hear” what is going on at the conference through the lens of those live-Tweeting it. On the other hand, it is often extremely frustrating because much of the research is re-hashing of the same old treatments in different combinations. And there is very little focus on real prevention of breast cancer.

This year, one of the big studies that is being presented is the SOFT trial, a trial that compared a typical breast cancer treatment, Tamoxifen, with ovarian suppression plus Tamoxifen. The results of this trial show that there is not much benefit to ovarian suppression in addition to Tamoxifen, except for a small subgroup of younger women who have already had chemo (which means that their cancers were more severe). This is interesting to me because I was involved in a similar trial called the TEXT trial, and I have some personal experience with ovarian suppression.

This was my experience: when I was diagnosed with breast cancer in January of 2009, I had a 3.2 cm tumor that pathology showed was Invasive Ductal Carcinoma (IDC) and it was estrogen and progesterone receptor positive. After surgery, it was discovered that the tumor had not spread into my lymph nodes, which was very good news. At that time, a relatively new (at the time) test called Oncotype DX was available to me. That test, which is called a genomic test, compared a group of genes in my tumor with that of other women with a similar tumor. The results showed that I had a relatively low chance of recurrence, and that chemo wasn’t needed. However, because of the size of the tumor, my oncologist wanted me to consider chemotherapy anyway.

So the issue for me was: how much treatment was the right amount for me, and how much was too much?

The “standard” treatment at the time was surgery (lumpectomy), radiation, and Tamoxifen for 5 years. If needed, chemo could be added. As a person who easily becomes nauseous, I really didn’t want chemo, and I didn’t think it was needed. I went through a few difficult weeks of “discussing” this with my oncologist. I felt that she was pushing me toward chemo even though the results of the Oncotype test showed that I didn’t need it. It was very frustrating.

At that time, there were some trials going on, and as a researcher, I was interested in the trials. The one I decided to enter was called TEXT, and it involved ovarian suppression. The idea was that since my tumor was “fed” by estrogen, and that my body was still producing estrogen (as I wasn’t yet in menopause), that putting me into artificial menopause through ovarian suppression shots might add an additional protective effect.

So I gamely started the TEXT trial. I started taking Tamoxifen pills daily, and I received my first ovarian suppression shot (a rather large shot in the buttocks) in June or July 2009 from a very nice nurse named Ann. I had to return monthly to the hospital chemotherapy suite and to Ann for the shots, a very surreal experience. It took about 3 months for the ovarian suppression to take effect, and then I stopped having periods, and started having hot flashes. The kind of hot flashes that wake you up at night, first sweating and hot, and then sweating and cold. These hot flashes affecting my sleeping in a big way: I wasn't sleeping well at all. At the same time, my oncologist insisted that I get off the antidepressant I'd been on for years because of a theory (that was later disproven) that it would reduce the effectiveness of the Tamoxifen. So I was on a new antidepressant that wasn't working, I had terrible hot flashes, and I wasn't sleeping. Then my psychiatrist prescribed sleeping pills.

By Christmas break, I was a hot mess. I was sleeping a little better with the sleeping pills, but I was nauseous and losing weight. Eventually I developed heart palpitations and other uncomfortable symptoms. I didn't know if these were due to the ovarian suppression, the Tamoxifen, the new antidepressant, or the sleeping pills. It's kind of a long story, and I had many, many visits to many different doctors who couldn’t figure out how to help me, but eventually I got off everything – the ovarian suppression shots, the sleeping pills, the new antidepressant – except the Tamoxifen and my old reliable antidepressant. By the spring, I was feeling much better, but this whole experience left me feeling very angry and vulnerable.

After that, I stuck out Tamoxifen for 5 years. Having lived through that terrible 6 months of bad side effects, "just" Tamoxifen was like a dream vacation. I could live with "just" hot flashes as long as I wasn't depressed, didn't have heart palpitations and nausea, etc.

So now, with the new results of the SOFT trial, it seems that “just” Tamoxifen was just fine. The ovarian suppression wouldn’t have really made a difference for me. I’m glad that I went with my gut and got off the treatment that was ruining my quality of life.

What’s frustrating for me is the headlines coming out of SABCS about the SOFT trial. Many are touting ovarian suppression as a “promising new treatment.” Many are saying that these results are “practice-changing.” Few headlines are talking about the side effects, the impact on quality of life that goes along with ovarian suppression. I can only speak from my experience. Others may be able to deal with ovarian suppression just fine. But I found it was unacceptable. I couldn’t live with it.

Bottom line, it’s one thing for researchers to play with combinations of different medications and treatments, always trying to find the combination that shows a tiny bit more effectiveness. But real women are living with these medications and treatments, and there are real life side effects that impact us every day. This is not a joke. It’s not just research. It’s real people and real lives. And none of this research is doing anything to prevent breast cancer from occurring in the first place.

So I’ll continue to follow my Twitter feed for SABCS. And I’ll continue to look at the research from both a public health and a patient perspective. And I’ll still be waiting for the day that breast cancer diagnoses are a thing of the past, and that we can prevent breast cancer altogether.

Uh, oh, AARP

AARP Magazine recently published an arguably ill-informed article featuring Sheryl Crow and Melissa Etheridge talking about their breast cancer experiences. There has been quite a bit of discussion on social media about this article. In particular, people are upset with the "Lessons for all of us" sidebar to the article, which you can see for yourself here. Here is just a sample of articles written about this snafu:

• http://boingboing.net/2014/11/10/aarp-runs-vomit-inducing-quac.html
• http://www.huffingtonpost.com/liz-margolies-lcsw/melissa-etheridge-got-it-all-wrong_b_6141218.html
• http://www.funkygenes.org/aar_po_d_that_they_ran_this_article
• http://twitchy.com/2014/11/11/tweeters-unload-on-aarps-vomit-inducing-quackerific-story-on-how-sheryl-crow-and-melissa-etheridge-beat-cancer/
• http://nancyspoint.com/who-should-take-the-heat-for-the-melissa-etheridgesheryl-crow-aarp-article/

Here's my take.

I've been thinking recently about people's need to stay in control when they are faced with a cancer diagnosis. People do this in different ways. Some people insist on making extreme treatment decisions for themselves (such as the huge increase in women choosing double mastectomy for breast cancer), even if these aren't necessarily sanctioned by their doctor or based in evidence. Others start extreme exercise or food regimens in order to control their bodies. Some take enormous quantities of vitamins or other supplements. Some choose meditation, acupuncture, or other alternative treatments.

The point I'm trying to make is that with cancer, people feel the need to get back in control because they feel so out of control.

So what I think is going on in this article is that Crow and Etheridge are demonstrating quite well this "taking control" phenomenon. Etheridge demonstrates it particularly well, with statements such as: "This was my own doing and I take responsibility. When I got my body back into balance, the cancer disappeared."

Clearly there is no scientific basis for these claims. But psychologically, I do believe that these statements show us how believing that you have control over your own cancer gives some folks comfort.

Something else I've been thinking about recently is the need for some religious folks to attribute their cancer to some kind of lack in their connection to G-d. Someone I know has cancer and wrote how she was angry at herself for not praying hard enough, and for not thinking positively enough, because clearly, she thought, if she had been praying hard enough and thinking positively enough, G-d would heal her. So she needed to pray harder, and think more positive thoughts.

For me, this is just another example of taking control. We don't really know for sure if prayer and positive thoughts lead to healing (although I know that some might argue with me about this). There is no scientific basis to this. But for some, taking control in this way is helpful.

I don't know too much about the author of the AARP article, Alanna Nash, but I'm pretty sure from her bio she is no scientist and no expert on breast cancer. Actually it seems like her area of expertise is musicians. So likely that's why she wrote this article, which is about two musicians, and it just morphed into something she didn't know a lot about. Yes, AARP should have vetted the article more closely. And I do think they should publish a retraction. But Nash is probably not savvy to the world of breast cancer and took what these musicians said as truth.

Don't get me wrong: I can't stand this sort of thing that minimizes the horrors of cancer, and makes it into a positive, life-changing event. It's not positive. It is life-changing, but often not in a good way. However, I can see that these sorts of statements are really about gaining control over cancer, in a time of having no control at all.

It's October

So today – unbelievably – is October 1. Unbelievable not just because this was the strangest summer ever. Not just because we have been experiencing unusually warm weather (yes, I had the a/c on a few days ago although it's cool and pouring today). But because we are about to embark on the dreaded Pinktober, known to most people as Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

I’ve been complaining about BCAM for years, so I won’t do that again (much). I’ve already noted that most people are quite aware of breast cancer, and that we don’t need pink oil trucks or pink newspapers or pink gloves on football players to remind us of the existence of breast cancer. That buying pink products won’t help prevent or cure breast cancer. That breast cancer is actually many different types of cancer, that there won't be ONE CURE ever, that removing your breasts won’t prevent you from dying from breast cancer, and that what you really need to worry about isn’t the cancer in your breast but the cancer cells that have spread throughout your body before you even know that you have breast cancer. Metastasis is the killer, not the tumor itself.

The main problem is, all this early detection and treatment of smaller and smaller tumors hasn't really impacted the death rate. More and more women are finding their tumors earlier and earlier, and undergoing all kinds of treatments, but basically the same number of women are still dying from breast cancer. Why? Because the tumors found early probably wouldn't have killed them in the first place. And in spite of advances in treatment, once breast cancer has metastasized, women die. 40,000 women die from breast cancer metastasis in the U.S. each year. That's a lot of women.

So what has happened this year in the world of breast cancer?

For me, personally, I have reached the 5 year mark since my diagnosis, for what it’s worth. I am grateful, but still apprehensive. I have completed the surgeries, radiation, and 5 years of tamoxifen, and now I’ve decided to stop the tamoxifen as it caused a blood clot in my leg, and even though it is recommended now to continue it for another 5 years, that might not do me much good. So I’m stopping. I stopped. What’s scary is that some women have their breast cancer recur, either in the breast or in another part of their body as metastasis, even many years after their initial diagnosis. I could be one of those women, or I could not be. Results of my Oncotype DX test showed that I have a 10% chance of a “distant recurrence.” That means 90% chance of no recurrence. That’s what I have to live with.

But enough about me.

In other news, yet another friend in my circle had her own breast cancer diagnosis this year. Although the tumor itself was tiny, it unfortunately had spread into her lymph nodes, and she therefore needed not only a lumpectomy but chemo and radiation. She has been bravely facing all the treatments and challenges with grace and dignity. But it's nothing that I'd wish on anyone.

In the larger world, the world of entertainment, many were stunned to hear this spring that actress Angelina Jolie had a double mastectomy due to her genetic predisposition to a high risk of breast cancer. This has put BRCA testing back on the map, and apparently many women have been asking for it since Jolie’s announcement. One scientist is insisting that all women should be tested for the breast cancer genes, which is very controversial. More recently, TV news personality Joan Lunden announced that she has triple negative breast cancer, and she is now making the rounds on TV discussing her experience.

In the world of science, folks are still fighting about mammography. Is it useful? When should women start getting mammograms? Drugs and treatments make the news all the time, but really there is nothing significantly new. We keep hearing about "personalized medicine" but in reality, treatment still consists of surgery, radiation, chemotherapy, and medication. We just aren't there yet in terms of true personalized medicine. 

There seems to be a better understanding among the general public that things in our environment - pesticides, chemicals, household cleaners and personal care products - have ingredients that aren't adequately tested and that are showing harm to human health, and some may be cancer causing. This is promising, but change is slow in this area. We still aren't in a place where prevention of breast cancer is a high priority.

To sum up, I'll quote Heather Cooper Ortner, CEO of the Dr. Susan Love Research Foundation:

“Progress has been made in the diagnosis and treatment of breast cancer, but sadly, the number of breast cancer deaths has not changed substantially. Until we find the cause and how to prevent it, those dreaded words, ‘you have breast cancer,’ will continue to disrupt lives.”

House of Horrors: Why Didn't We Know?

Like many others, I have been horrified yet obscenely fascinated with the recent local story of  the "house of horrors" in Blackstone, MA. I'm not sure which is worse: the fact that this woman -- who is clearly mentally ill -- was somehow able to conceal her mental illness from everyone including extended family, FOR YEARS, all the while concealing multiple  pregnancies(at least five) from said family and giving birth to babies AT HOME (how do you even do that!) and then killing or allowing the babies to die and leaving their corpses in the house; that her two older children (13 and 10) somehow managed to go to school and appear somewhat normal while all this was going on; that her husband was living in the basement and was somehow unaware of all that was going on upstairs; that she gave birth to two more babies, one three and one 5 months who she kept HIDDEN and apparently never took out of the house; there is also a hoarding thing going on with piles of dirty diapers and other trash piled up several feet high in the house, leading to mice, bugs, etc.; and finally there are remains of dead pets, dogs and cats. Every time I hear more it's kind of unbelievable.

How could no one have known? asks the Boston Globe's Yvonne Abraham. Apparently neighbors noticed that bad smells came from the house, but there were no other signs of anything amiss. Apparently the Department of Children and Families was called to the home a number of years ago, and while things were messy, they weren't deemed bad enough to justify removal of the children or other action. Apparently the mother wouldn't allow anyone to visit the house. Shouldn't this have been a clue? Shouldn't her family members, whom she saw quite frequently, have insisted on going into the house once in a while to see what was happening there?

The truth is, people can do a lot of things privately, in their own homes, and no one will know. We Americans value our privacy. We love it. We can do what we want to do in our homes, and as long as it isn't blatantly illegal, we can get away with it. Neighbors and passers-by tend to turn a blind eye, even if things seem a little off. That's how family violence (spousal, child) and worse, child sexual abuse, domestic slavery, etc. keeps happening. The three kidnapped women in Ohio were living in that house for 10 YEARS and no one knew.

I think part of the solution is that there needs to be a bit more accountability. Neighbors checking in on each other. If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong in your community, with a family, following through on that feeling.The editorial in today's Globe discusses just this issue.

I keep thinking about the male partner in this. He claims he had no idea of what was going on in the house, including the birth of the most recent two babies. But clearly he was having sex with this woman, over and over again. Enough so that she became pregnant at least seven times. How could he have not known what was going on in that house? It sounds like he had some issues with marijuana. But would that allow him to ignore what was going on, for years?

The other thing I keep thinking of is the effect of all this on the kids who lived in that house. It sounds like the youngest two children are already terribly developmentally stunted. But how about the older two kids, who apparently went to school and were out in the world, seemingly normal?  It's beyond horrific to think what is going on in their minds. I've been trying to imagine what is going through the head of that 10 year old boy:

My mom has big brown eyes and a friendly smile, but something isn't quite right. Our house isn't like other houses that I've visited. Other houses smell like cookies, or bread, or perfume. Our house smells terrible, like poop. Part of the reason is that mom leaves dirty diapers out in the open, all piled up. She says she just got sick of washing them all the time. So she just quit.

She quit doing other things, too. She doesn't wash our clothes. She doesn't wash the dishes. She doesn't wash anything, really. So my sister and I have to go to school in the same dirty clothes every day.

I think it has to do with the babies. Things were pretty much okay until a few years ago, when the first baby came. Mom was worried that Dad would find out about the baby, so she kept the baby hidden, and stopped doing much of anything. Then a few years later, the second baby came along. She told us that she was just babysitting those two babies, but we knew the truth. Now Mom was really worried. How could she hide two babies?

I mostly try to stay out of the house. I play in the yard as much as I can, or I go over a friend's house, or I go to school. Our house smells bad, and mom just doesn't act right. She loves us, I know that for a fact, but she has been acting pretty weird lately. It finally got so bad, and the baby was crying so much,  that I asked my friend's mom for help to stop the baby from crying. That's when everything changed. The police came, and took all of us out of the house. Now we live at a different house. At least it doesn't smell.