Thanks to everyone for writing such supportive comments and emails after yesterday's rant. I was truly a mess yesterday. Today, I'm happy to report that things are much better.
We met with the (hated) onc who was very charming (damn her!) and kind and respectful. She went over the results in great detail, and explained why she felt it was important to look at both sets of figures, even though they are quite different and show different things. In the end, she agreed with the assessment of the Oncotype score, which showed that I would receive little benefit from chemo. It all comes down to how you feel: do you want to hit the cancer with all the big guns you have, or do you want a more moderate approach? I fall into the second category, so we are NOT going to go with chemo.
What we are going to go with is not one, but two research studies. The TEXT trial involves ovarian suppression (woo hoo menopause!) and then one of 2 medications, Tamoxifen or an Aromatase Inhibitor, both of which have been shown to reduce recurrence of cancer, so it's a win-win. The second study is of 3 different medications to reduce bone loss, and which have recently also been shown to reduce recurrence of cancer by a third. So both of these studies involve things that will be helpful to prevent recurrence. So I'm very satisfied with my decision.
I still have to go through radiation, which will be in late April and May, and then after that, I'll start the studies. So menopause will have to wait just a bit longer...
Thanks again, everyone, for your support. It makes a world of difference to me.