Friday, April 03, 2009


No, I'm not planning on dying anytime soon, although this bout with cancer has me thinking a bit more than usual about death. My death.

When I die, please don't put something like this in my obituary:
She was happiest when surrounded by her family. She was always patient and kind. She never raised her voice. She always thought of others.

The reality is, my family, who I love, often drive me crazy. When we are at home, both my husband and son find it impossible to relax. They roam around the house, looking for stimulation. My son constantly wants something to eat. He will not leave me alone for more than 10 minutes at a time. It drives me batty.

I am not always patient and kind. I am often impatient and mean. I am often yelling and screaming. I am often selfish and thinking only of myself.

Will they put this in my obituary?

Probably not. But I can hope.


Barb said...

Interesting idea - requesting sentiments for your obituary. Just as yours isn't likely to include impatient, mine is not likely to include stubborn as a mule. I guess they all want to remember us as we were on a day after a great night's sleep, the perfect meal, and some time at the spa.

Starchilde7 said...

I'm not so concerned with what will be written in my obituary. That will be read and accepted by people who didn't know me. However, I want something else from those who do know me. Everyone holds within them stories of those we know - ones that represent and epitomize these people. I want everyone, when they come together after I'm gone, to share their stories of me. That way they may better know me and come a little closer to one and other.

Anonymous said...

I love this post. I love your frankness and honesty and it makes it easy for me to say that my family drives me batty, too. Though I probably drive them batty as well.

christina(apronstrings) said...

too funny. barb-i love it...though no matter how much sleep I have I would never be described like that.

Dancinghotdogs said...

Hmmm what would I want said about me in my obituary other then how beautiful and awesome I am? All kidding aside fantastic post. Everything will be alright.

erin said...

Mine would definitely say "she was always screaming at her boys to get dressed, pick up their underwear and get to bed."

She loved them but some days you'd never know it....