Friday, October 29, 2010

Friends in cyberspace

The internet is a funny place. Some of the relationships you have are with people you actually know in real life, and some are with people you only know in cyberspace. Sometimes you get to know people pretty well in cyberspace, especially if they write frequently in their blog. And sometimes, people you know only from cyberspace die. And it is really, really sad, even though you have never actually met them in person.

RivkA was one of those people.

I follow a number of "Jewish" blogs of various types, and one of them is called A Mother In Israel. When that blogger read about my struggles with breast cancer, she connected me with RivkA. I've been reading her blog for several years now, and was always amazed at her energy and ability to live fully in each moment, even while dealing with her serious and ultimately, fatal breast cancer.

An example of that is a post here from her blog from just a month ago:
Last week, for the first time, I had such a difficult time teaching swimming that I wondered if I would be able to continue. Given how weak I felt, I did not know until this morning if I would be up for teaching today. Even if I could manage to teach, I worried that it would take everything out of me and leave me like a rag again.

In the end, I felt OK, so I decided to teach, and I am so glad!

I had amazing classes!!

My beginners all accomplished a new step forward and we were all so excited!

My advanced swimmers worked hard and had a very productive lesson as well.

Of course I felt tired afterwards, but I also felt great!

I love teaching and days like today make all the efforts worthwhile!!
RivkA leaves a husband and 3 teen-aged children. Breast cancer is not fair. Some people do fine, and others die.

I remember when I first started reading RivkA's blog, in spite of her optimism, I realized that this brave person would likely not make it. Her cancer was spreading. She had some time, but not a lifetime.

Hearing of her death makes me renew my commitment to work to end this disease. To figure out how to prevent breast cancer before it begins, so other families will not have to suffer the way RivkA's family surely is.

May her memory be for a blessing.


FollowUpQuestion said...

beautiful tribute, Adena. Thank you for sharing RivkA's story with us all.

Rachel Inbar said...

Beautiful. And yes, it is very, very sad even when the person is someone you've never met face to face.

rutimizrachi said...

Thank you, Adena. It was nice to read a post of RivkA's I had forgotten.

Keep that fire to help with finding a cure.